Monday 3 April 2017

10 Self-love tips

Hey guys!!

Throughout my life I have gone through periods of anxiety and depressions and sometimes I really felt like everything I was thinking and feeling was taking over my life. I'm going to share with you some tips that I have learnt along my journey that have helped me live a happier life.

Distance yourself from negative people
This tip can be quite hard but if you are around people that are constantly negative and you feel as though they are dragging you down, you need to try and separate yourself from them. Yes this could be hard if these people are you close friends or family but your happiness is the most important. The people that you find negative in your life might not even know that they are having that effect on you so even trying to talk to them might open their eyes to how you are feeling. You will find when you are not around people you find negative you will feel better about yourself.

Find time for yourself
Life is a wonderful blessing but you might find that you are constantly stuck with doing what you feel is a million things at once, well, you should try and find time to yourself - even if it's only 10 minutes or you walking your dog. Having your own time to reflect on your own feelings can really help. I also find that writing things down like how I'm feeling is really beneficial for me.

Do things you want to do
This links with the tip above but you need to make time to be able to do the things you want to do. If you are constantly doing what everyone else wants you to do then you will never have time to work on your own mind and happiness. So try to include what you WANT to do in your busy schedule and not focus on what you think needs doing (e.g. the washing up, hoovering etc). If you want to make a cake or paint your nails or watch tv - do it.

Yep I know I've said exercise, but honestly I feel as though exercising has really helped me become happier. I would keep all my emotions and feelings bottled and I felt as though it was just building up and up in my head, so exercise for me was one way I could really vent everything out. Not to mention the feeling after you work out is totally worth it, and if your body is healthier then your mind will be too.

Again fairly similar to above but if you have a poor diet that consists of chocolates and deep fried food then this alone can make you feel under the weather. You might feel tired easily and just generally unmotivated. I used to find comfort in eating my favourite food (pizza/chocolate/crisps etc) so I found myself eating them all the time in quite large portions - which ended up just making me feel bad because of how much I'd eaten and I would also become tired and just feel down. As soon as I started swapping some of my snacks for fruits and vegetables I noticed that I was more awake and didn't feel so 'heavy'. I also had more energy and this all together made me feel a lot happier. I also ditched the fizzy drinks for water and really pushed myself to drinking lots of it. I found water was almost a detox for me and that I was washing out all of my negatively. Try it.

Talk to someone
If you're feeling like you are bottling everything up - then talk to someone. It does nothing good to keep things to yourself as you'll just end up getting more stressed and overwhelmed. If you feel as though your friends or family members don't have the 'time' to talk to you or you think they won't understand then there is absolutely nothing wrong with talking to a professional. Even just saying things out loud to yourself could help.

Read books
There are so many books out there with great advice, I highly recommend that you research some - one of my favourites is The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer. Try to read a chapter a night or a chapter a week depending on how much free time you have. Some of them can really open your eyes to things and help you become more positive.

Don't rush
I found one of things that helped me, and cut down my stress was to not rush. Now I know that sounds easier said then done, we've all had busy mornings but just taking your time more and be more organised can help you not to rush so much. If you need to be out the house by 7:00 try to get up 10-15 minutes earlier than you would usually. In conjunction with that you should try to get to bed earlier and make sure that you have a good nights sleep. Switch off your phone or laptop and concentrate on properly 'shutting off' at night.

Set small goals for yourself
One of the things that used to really help me and I still do even to this day, is to make a little list on my phone or notepad of small things that I would like to do each day. This can be as small as walking the dog or washing your car, but I found that because I was doing something that day that I had set out to do, it was an achievement for me. No matter how small or insignificant. You feel great when you've done something. This also helps the people that may find they spend a lot of time thinking negative thoughts. You can't think so negatively if your brain is focusing on something else.

My last tip is to focus on the things that you want to get out of your life. I absolutely love writing down things that I want to accomplish in 6 months or a year. If you have it written somewhere you can see then it will keep you going when maybe your having a bit of a down day. Everything will work out in the end if you go into things with a positive and open mind.

Thanks for taking the time to read;
AmberBentleyy xo

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