I thought I would do a slightly different post since we are fast approaching the holidays.. I have had anxiety and depression for a while, it only really affected me on certain occasions whereas this past year has been something totally different. I have felt the full force of it put it that way! I thought I would include some tips to help you manage over the christmas period.
Make Your Own Choices
This can seem like a silly thing but did you know that you really do have the choice to do what want? Within reason obviously but if you have people making plans and decisions around you don't feel afraid to be heard. If you don't want to go to party or go around a certain someones house then don't. Don't feel pressured in to doing something that you're not happy with. If they really care about you then they'll understand.
Speak To Someone
This can be good if you feel like the people around you just don't get you. Not everyone has been through situations like this in their life so why not try to help them understand. Now I know that there will be some people out there that can't understand and maybe you will just have to accept that for that person. It's not really their fault that they can't understand something they have never been through. There is also always professional people that you can speak to if you don't feel like speaking to friends and family.
Anxiety UK; 08444 775 774 (Mon-Fri, 9:30am-5:30pm) - www.anxietyuk.org.uk
Mind; 0300 123 3393 (Mon-Fri, 9am-6pm) - www.mind.org.uk
No Panic; 0844 967 4848 (10am-10pm) - www.nopanic.org.uk
Samaritans; 116 123 (24hour) - www.samaritans.org.uk
Christmas time can get pretty hectic with you trying to decide what to get who and who you should send cards to and all that. Don't sweat it, just try and take your time and organise yourself. I am a fully fledged professional list writer. Like seriously I write lists for everything! But it seriously helps me to not feel as stressed and overwhelmed. I can write down ideas for people and people that I need to write cards for. Give yourself a couple of days to make your list just so you can give yourself time to remember anybody else. I recommend writing a list on your phone or on something that you'll have available to you all the time. Also if you are someone that struggles with managing money then making a list and budgeting is going to be your best friend.
Families can be a bit testing at the best of times lets face it. I find that there are certain people in my family that can make me feel a certain way, now I don't think they necessarily make me feel this way on purpose I am guilty of never actually bringing it up with as I don't want to start any family drama or anything. If there is a member of your family or someone in your close friendship circle the best advice I can have for you is to not listen, switch yourself off as much as you can and try not to take things too personally. Usually families just want to see how you're doing and what you're doing with your life. If questions get too much then just take some time out and change the subject. Offer a drink, need to use the bathroom.. You get the idea!!
Find Time For Yourself
Sometimes we can get quite wrapped up in all things christmassy and whilst lots of people out there enjoy it there are some of us that almost can't wait for it to be over in a way. Just because there is lots going it doesn't mean that you should just forget about the things that you enjoy doing. It's really important for you to make time for yourself.
Eat & Drink In Moderation
As much as I totally hate to say it your eating and drinking habit does affect your mental health. When you're eating things that aren't great for you and maybe drinking to excess you are probably going to wind up not feel very good. It is important to try and be as healthy as possible over the holiday period. And believe me I know it is hard seeing all the yummy food around you but if you eat and drink in moderation you will feel much better.
Make New Traditions
Christmas can sometimes end up feeling a bit repetitive, if you are someone that seems to do the same thing each year over and over then maybe it is time for you to make a change. I know I can think back to certain situations and feel pretty bad so a similar thing can start to happen over christmas. If you have had a previously bad experience one year then you may feel a bit on edge about something else happening. Life is really too short to continue doing the same things over and over so why don't you change it?
If you are someone that doesn't like going out in busy places where there is going to be lots of people then it's great that you can pretty much do all of your present shopping online. It helps if you get easily overwhelmed and I mean who doesn't want to stay in a onesie all day long in the warm??
Social media can be a great thing, you can educate yourself and discover new things but when you are using it to the point that you are comparing your life to somone elses online then it's time to slow it down a bit. Things online aren't always as they seem. Just because it might look like everyone else around you is having a great time it doesn't mean it's true. and it is going end up making you feel bad. Don't worry about what everyone else is doing, concentrate on yourself!!
Thanks for taking the time to read;